Stuck Between a Goal and a Hard Place
Hey my MindfulSistahs! How many of you participated in the this week mindful thought. I know I did! Doing the journal entries on myself asking myself who am I, was kind of hard at first, but the only reason it was hard was due to me trying to be perfect and not being real. Once I made myself aware of that I started over. The information for that journal entry flowed so easily. Honestly some of the items that I listed made me reminisce on my childhood and adulthood experiences. Some of the memories brought tears to my eyes. I told y’all if you really real with yourself then some emotions will manifest. I wrote three pages worth of Who am I facts about myself. I was surprised that I had so much information about myself. Overall I really enjoyed exploring who I really am and in that self discovery I discovered some new interest. One of the interest was that I am interested in participating in African dance. I am proud of myself for discovering this because for so long I couldn’t think of any interest. What was your experience with this activity? Don’t be afraid to express. Remember we in this together and I’m here for you!
Now for this week mindful thought. Have you ever had a goal that you really want to obtain but stuck between your goal oriented drive and life situations? Of course my hand and arm is waving high in the air:) I am experiencing this now. I am such an goal orientated person and have accomplish a lot of goals that I have set for myself. But the one goal that I want to obtain is becoming Dr. Eves. Yes accomplishing my doctorate is my dream goal. I am a women who believes in education and believes that education will open up experiences that you never thought you would experience. Though I have this great goal of mine, life situations interfere with obtaining that goal. I have heard time and time again that if you really want to achieve your goal nothing will stop you. I feel that this saying is incorrect because I do feel that are real life situations that demand that you put the goal on hold or not achieve it at all. So my mindfulsistahs, this week lets journal about our goals and what are something’s that come in between you and that achieving that goal. With these entries I hope we can become aware of those barriers and start tackling those one by one to create the opportunity for the your dream goal to be achieved. Feel free to share your thoughts and feelings. Remember don’t be afraid to express yourself, we are in this together and I’m here for you!
Who Am I?
Being on this mindfulness journey has been one hard process. I’m not going to lie putting all this effort into being mindful is like getting a college a degree. Day in and day out having control of my thoughts and providing a relaxing life for myself has been a struggle. Which has caused a distance with actually putting forth the effort to continue being mindful. I’ll be 100% honest that it has not been an everyday practice. Between being a wife, mother, and working my days go past so fast that mindfulness is not on the forth front of my mind. Today I thought to myself, I research and study the information to help women with becoming mindful, am I practicing the knowledge that I am giving? That answer is no. How can I provide information to women in need but don’t know the result of it because I barley apply techniques and information to my life. From this day forward holding myself accountable is going to be the change. Immersing myself into mindfulness will help me not only give me the experience but will help other women to commit and want experience themselves due to my outcomes. How many other women agree or are with me on this? Practicing mindfulness is difficult but if you are real with yourself from the beginning it shouldn’t be hard because you know YOU. So being real about my mindfulness is my beginning and I hope that it helps with your starting point. So lets start today ladies if we haven’t been consistent! Lets begin with day 1 today 2/9/2017. Whip out your journals and journal about the mindful thought of the week. Mindful Thought of the Week: Who am I, really who am I? Awareness of ourselves is the first step in being mindful. So ask yourself who are you? What are you likes and dislikes, what are the things you want to achieve the most, what are your pet peeves, what do you want do want your life to look like this time next year? etc. Answering those questions in your journal entries this week will spark other things that will help you learn about yourself. Now this is only going to work if you are really real with yourself. Yeah you might cry, laugh, become upset, or be totally overjoyed. But journaling about this mindful thought will help discover who you really are. So week one to the starting over experience journaling about who are you? I am with you in this process ladies and support you 100%. Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences!
Today’s television shows and movies display women participating in violence and aggression toward one another. Let’s be real you know some of our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers would be very upset when they see women acting like plum fools for the television ratings, increased tweets, and recognition on Facebook. Thinking back to the good ole days I can remember my grandmother giving me real how to be a women tips. The one I specifically remember “don’t let nobody push you to come out your character as a women you respect yourself and let your actions show that.”
Growing up into a women those very words I keep hold to and practice every day and I instill the very same into my daughters. Many may say “you don’t know my situation I’m stressed that’s why I’m so angry or sad.”, “she came at me with a slick mouth and I need to let her have it back.”, “walking away is not gonna help I need to take the situation into my own hands.” I know ladies some of you may be thinking these very things. But being mindful can help calm the aggression, emotions, thoughts and feelings with just a few simple techniques to use daily.
Women in general lives are busy and you say to yourself I don’t have the time to sitting Indian style with my fingers to a point lol. People that think that mindfulness has to be boring but truthfully it doesn’t have to be. The most interesting and fun fact is anything that you do can help you connect with yourself and become aware of the present. By you just being interested and reading this post is a contribution to beginning mindfulness.
Let’s start with what is mindfulness? Mindfulness is presently being conscious of our feelings, thoughts, and body vibes. It is a proven scientific fact that mindfulness reduces stress and helps increase the connection and awareness with ourselves. So how do you start? Easy, just 3 simple techniques will help strengthen being mindfulness.
- Setting aside “me time.” – As women we are busy with everyday life and it can be hard to set aside time for ourselves. Taking 5 to 10 minutes out your day to sit in a quiet place and let you mind be aware of the “now” can do wonders. Doing this sets up the quiet time to put into routine. Trust as women we make everything urgent and all task have to be completed before crawling into bed. But you know what those things can wait for 5 to 10 minutes while you relax and regroup your mind. Hey once you’re done with your quiet time you can jump right back into being super women.
- Be present– When sitting in your room in a comfy chair or laying in your bed having your quiet time, let your senses and feelings take control of whats going on presently. Is the clock ticking on the wall?, do your hear the fan going? Does the bed feel soft, do you heard your kids knocking on your? Do you feel happy? Think about those very present thoughts that come into your mind.
- Judgment roll– It can easily happen that our judgments can make a presence in our thoughts. But if that happens don’t cut them off. Just let them pass and roll out if your mind.
- Stay present– Make sure that when you are being present in your thoughts that you are not letting your thoughts wonder into space. “did I cook dinner right.” “I should have did some of the laundry today.” Don’t let your thoughts get carried away. Make mental note of them and slowly bring yourself back to being thinking presently.
- Be kind to your mind-Last but not least be kind to yourself when your mind wanders. It okay just do what was said in step 4 and you will be okay.
Now that you know what mindfulness is and how to begin try it! Post in the comment box your experience and how It build you into a more MindfulSistah.